I've been thinking a lot recently about what I wanted to Blog about next, and decided to leave it until I really felt like I had had a moment of realisation. I've also been doing a lot of introspective thinking, (think less transcendental meditation cross legged in a forest and more staring into a refrigerator fighting the urge to eat a scoop of Nutella), trying to understand why there are certain things I could be doing better, in training and in running a business and what I could be doing to improve.
I think a lot of people recognise their weaknesses in life, the harder thing to do is to recognise your strengths, how many times have you struggled to recall your best features in a job interview, or whilst writing a personal statement? It's difficult to be confident, it's much easier and much more British to be humble about your capabilities, and I think that ultimately I have fallen foul to masquerading my fear of failure, of putting myself out there as being "humble". So I'm going to break down what I have learned from a few wise people of the past couple of months.
BEING SCARED OF FAILING IS A GOOD THING.
This is the one single thing in life that I am most scared of. Plain and simple, I don't like failing at anything. I have experienced failure in many different areas of life, in the ring, in work, that one time I couldn't finish a large Dominos pizza on my own. The one that hurt the most was the one in the ring, the only time I ever had a fight where I was stopped, it sucked, all my friends watched me lose, I was embarrassed. To top it all off I had died my hair red, I mean like totally red, who does that? What on earth was I thinking? The point being, that I grew up competing in a sport where failure wasn't like losing a football match, you didn't just get to say, maybe next week, it's weeks of intensive training where if you fail, you can be seriously hurt, failure in combat sports is the ultimate failure. This is the mindset that I have developed over the years, and I have mistakenly taken it into every other area of my life, even to the point where not trying has been a better option in some instances than trying and failing. So here's the lesson I learned recently, or over the past year or so, fear of failure is fine, as long as you use it as a motivator and not a reason to stagnate. I'm going to try harder to make sure I use this weakness as a strength and ultimately try and accept that if you fail, who cares? Just try again.
I HOPE I'M NOT IMPOSING.
I have a pretty bad personality trait for someone who's trying to grow a business. I don't really like ramming my business down peoples throats, or as one person referred to it the other day, "advertising". There's just something about the traditional way of advertising that feels a little fake to me. That's why I like doing Blogs and videos, at least there I can provide some degree of free content, that people can quickly consume during a break in their day, something genuine. So the next thing that I have come to accept is that I'm different, my club is different, we do things differently. BEING DIFFERENT IS A GOOD THING. We all have our unique way of approaching the world, I don't thing anyone can be successful at anything unless they embrace that uniqueness. I'm not going to view this as a weakness anymore, I think it's one of my strengths. One of my strengths when it comes to training, to kickboxing and combat sports in general, is that I have may way of moving, my way of competing and I show off when I'm in any type of training environment. Learning how to apply the features of your strengths to the development of your weaknesses is one of the biggest challenges in exercise, nutrition and life in general.
I took a pretty big chance this year, I'm going to be kind to myself and give myself a little pat on the back. Well done Scott, you handsome devil you. But what I've learned is that you have to make a lot of pretty sustained chances in life if you want to improve your situation, whether that be in your personal or professional life. Everything good in life that happens to you comes on the back of talking a chance, a chance on a job, a chance on joining a new club or starting a new hobby. Taking a chance implies some level of risk though, something is usually at stake, whether that be money, time, a job etc. And that's a scary thing to do. Even in combat sports, in order to win a fight, you have to put yourself in a position to receive damage, to potentially lose, you have to take those chances in order to succeed. So if you're thinking about joining a gym, or you're reading this and always thought "you know what I'd love to try boxing, or kickboxing, or muay thai" then take a chance, you never know, you could find yourself a hobby that inadvertently helps you get fit, confident and tough as hell. Or maybe you won't, but you'll never know until you take the chance.
Peace, Love and hard work.